Taking Action

Many clients discuss how their current circumstances aren’t what they want to be living in for the rest of their lives. They may even be able to identify some goals that they have or dreams for the life they would love to be living. But, then there is the big disconnect. The space between the idea and actually taking action to do something different. There is a lot of fear of the unknown and all kinds of excuses come up for why they didn’t take the action steps they committed to weeks before. women-697928__180Many clients can tell you why they didn’t take the steps, all the reasons why now wasn’t the right time, or how they got distracted with other more pressing issues. There are always plenty of reasons why they weren’t able to do what they said they would do. Many of these reasons are perfectly legitimate, but what very few clients discuss is the why behind why they didn’t take the action steps. They don’t go into how difficult, scary or vulnerable it makes them feel to step out of their comfort zone and into a new behavior. Taking action is having faith that we will be able to get what we say we desire. There is a saying that in order to walk on water we need to first get out of the boat. Many of us cling to the boat for dear life. It may be miserable on the boat, but at least it is predictable. I know what to expect if I live another day on the boat. Of course it is terrifying to take action, but as Mary Morrisey says, “Inspiration, without action, is merely entertainment. ACT on your inspiration today!” Convincing a client that they can do what they say they want to do is not easy work. It takes time to dive into the subconscious mind that holds the belief that they can’t. Taking time to explore the fear and creating empowerment by encouraging even small steps in the direction of the dream become the one degree change in the course of life that leads to a completely different destination.

4 comments on “Taking Action

  1. And what do you tell the client who has taken that difficult leap to change circumstances but is not finding success in that process?

    • Thanks for the question! There is no guarantee that taking a difficult leap will lead to success. In life we often find ourselves angry with inspiration and the idea that we would succeed when instead it feels like we have failed. What I discuss is what they have learned from the experience. It takes a lot of courage to take a risk and in the process they are going to learn something about themselves. There is also an understanding that it sometimes takes many unsuccessful attempts to find out what does work and that it also takes time. It is like when we plant the sunflower seed in the ground and say we want a tall beautiful plant, but when the little sprout comes up we stamp it out because it is not the tall beautiful flower we saw on the packaging. Our dreams sometimes take time to evolve, so don’t give up before the beauty blooms.

  2. Finding the faith one needs to continue on their journey is difficult for many of us seeking change. After so many failures it is just easier to give up and to accept one’s failures as the norm. At my age, I have no motivation left. For me, it is what it is. I am much better at helping others.

  3. Very true, change is difficult. There is the saying that it isn’t that people aren’t motivated to change, it is just that they are more motivated to keep doing what they are doing. What is your why for change? Get very clear on why the change is desired. Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.” If you believe you can change- you can.

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